A-Relationship problem part II

LETTER NUMBER: 199468

YOUR ORIGINAL QUESTION: Thank you so much dear Helen,
Our marriage wasn't an arranged one , we were friends for 7 years ,
and he was so in love with me ! Do you think that he played those days?!
When I asked him WHY he said just : We can't no more live together!
His father told him that I will kill him cause I don't let him to do what he likes and I ask him to have a real common life and say everything together!!!!!!
I think he married me for money (cause he asked me always to give him) or for his immigration to Canada!
He asked for divorce and he said bad thing on my back the things that they are not true .
Their parents didn't call my parents . My mom found the letter on our mail Box!
After all I think he can never be a good man for my life! and you are right I should finish it!


Thank you ,


ELDER RESPONSE: Thanks for writing to me again, Azi.

I have no way of knowing what his intentions were when he married you but he has behaved very badly, told you that he's getting a divorce, and that the two of you cannot live together anymore.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who marry to get citizenship and/or they marry for money. You said the two of you were friends for seven years before you got married. To answer your question, YES, I think he played you.

As I said in my last letter, I think it would be in your best interest to get out of this marriage, the sooner the better! You are in university and I'm sure you have goals and plans for your future. This marriage seems to have been a mistake. We all make mistakes. Don't let it have a negative effect on the rest of your life. Be the intelligent young woman that I know you are. One day, this will just be a bad memory in your past. You have your whole life ahead of you. He is not the one for you. Live in the present and plan for your future. Forget about the past. I have all good wishes for your success and happiness.




Best Regards,

Helen
Date Requested: 09/12/2010
Response Date: 09/13/2010
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